Proverbs 31 Woman: 5 Steps To Becoming One
How do I become a Proverbs 31 woman?
Alright, friend, let’s talk about the Proverbs 31 woman. She’s got her life together, right? She’s running her home, taking care of her family, working hard, and somehow still being kind and wise. If you’ve ever read Proverbs 31 and thought, Wow, she’s incredible, but I could never be like that—girl, I get it. But let’s take a deep breath because here’s the thing:
Becoming a Proverbs 31 woman isn’t about perfection; it’s about progress.
This week, let’s take five simple steps to grow into the woman God designed us to be. Ready? Let’s go!
1. Become a Proverbs 31 Woman By Prioritizing Your Relationship With God
Before we dive into anything else, let’s get one thing straight: A Proverbs 31 woman isn’t amazing because she’s superhuman; she’s amazing because she puts God first.
Proverbs 31:30 says, “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
That’s the secret right there! She knows that without God, none of this is possible. This week, let’s commit to spending intentional time with Him. Whether it’s reading a chapter of Proverbs, praying first thing in the morning, or journaling about what God is teaching us, let’s start making Him the center of our daily lives.
2. Taking Care Of Your Family
Before you panic—no, this doesn’t mean you need to suddenly become Martha Stewart. But Proverbs 31 shows us a woman who is dedicated to her household.
Proverbs 31:27 says, “She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.”
This doesn’t mean we can’t rest (because, girl, we need it), but it does mean we should be intentional about taking care of the people God has entrusted to us. This week, let’s choose one small way to bless our home—maybe it’s meal planning to make dinnertime less stressful, tackling that cluttered corner that’s been driving us crazy, or writing a sweet note to our spouse or kids. Little acts of love go a long way!
3. Using Your Gifts And Talents Wisely Is Key To Becoming A Proverbs 31 Woman
A Proverbs 31 woman is not just a homemaker—she’s also a boss. She works hard, she invests wisely, and she provides for her family.
Proverbs 31:16 says, “She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.”
This tells us two things: She’s smart with her resources, and she isn’t afraid to step into opportunities. Whether you’re running a business, working a 9-to-5, homeschooling, or managing your home full-time, God has given you talents to use.
This week, let’s identify one way we can be more intentional with our work. Maybe it’s setting better goals, learning a new skill, or just shifting our mindset to see our work as a way to glorify God.
4. Speaking With Wisdom and Kindness
We all know the power of words. They can lift someone up or tear them down in an instant. And the Proverbs 31 woman? She’s known for speaking life.
Proverbs 31:26 says, “She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.”
Oof. That means no unnecessary gossip, no snapping at our husbands or kids when we’re overwhelmed, and no tearing ourselves down either. This week, let’s pay attention to how we speak—to others and to ourselves. Can we encourage someone? Can we replace negative self-talk with truth from Scripture? Let’s aim for words that build up, not break down.
5. Taking Care Of Yourself So You Can Help Others
This might surprise you, but the Proverbs 31 woman is also strong—physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Proverbs 31:17 says, “She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.”
She’s not running on empty; she’s taking care of herself so she can serve well. This week, let’s commit to one way we can recharge. Maybe it’s going for a walk, drinking more water, reading a book, or just getting enough sleep. Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s necessary for serving our families and communities well.
Final Thoughts
Becoming a Proverbs 31 woman isn’t about suddenly waking up perfect one day—it’s about daily choices that bring us closer to the woman God designed us to be. And the best part? We don’t have to do it alone. God gives us the strength, wisdom, and grace to grow every single day.
So let’s start this week with intentional steps. Small progress is still progress, friend. You’ve got this, and more importantly—God’s got you.
Which step are you starting with this week? Let’s chat in the comments!